How I Overcame The Pain Of a Break Up

(Last Updated On: March 21, 2023)

Are you struggling to move on from a breakup? In this blog post, I share my personal journey of how I bounced back from the pain of a breakup and offer practical tips for anyone going through a similar experience.

Breaking up with someone can be one of the most painful experiences we can go through. Heartbreak, despair, and loneliness can leave us disoriented and confused. However, with time, patience, and a lot of self-care, overcoming the pain of a breakup is possible, and coming out stronger on the other side.

Accepting The Reality

The first step in getting over a breakup is to accept the reality of the situation. Denial or holding onto false hope can only prolong the pain and make it harder to heal. It’s important to acknowledge that the relationship has ended, and it’s time to move on.

When I went through my breakup, I found it helpful to list all the reasons why the relationship didn’t work out. Seeing it in black and white helped me to accept that it was truly over and that there was no going back.

Allow Yourself to Grieve

Feeling a range of emotions after a breakup is normal, including sadness, anger, and disappointment. Allow yourself to feel these emotions and grieve the loss of the relationship. Suppressing your feelings or pretending everything is okay will only prolong the healing process.

During my breakup, I cried and healthily expressed my emotions. I also found it helpful to talk to a trusted friend or therapist who could provide support and guidance.

Cut Off Contact

One of the hardest parts of a breakup can be letting go of the other person. However, cutting off contact can be an important step in moving on. Seeing or talking to your ex can only reopen wounds and make it harder to heal.

When I went through my breakup, I made the difficult decision to cut off contact with my ex. It was hard at first, but it allowed me to focus on my healing and avoid potential setbacks.

Focus on Self-Care

After a breakup, it’s important to prioritize your own well-being. This means taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Make time for things you enjoy, like reading, walking, or swimming.

During my breakup, I focused on self-care by prioritizing exercise, healthy eating, and getting enough sleep. I also made time for activities that brought me joy, such as hiking and spending time with friends.

Create a New Routine

Breaking up can disrupt your regular routine and leave you feeling lost or unsure of what to do next. Creating a new routine can help you establish a sense of normalcy and provide a sense of purpose.

I created a new routine during my breakup that included regular exercise, work, and social activities. Having a schedule helped me to stay focused and avoid dwelling on the past.

Rediscover Yourself

Breakups can be an opportunity for self-discovery and growth. During my breakup, I started exploring new hobbies and interests, such as painting and writing. It helped me to rediscover parts of myself that I had neglected during the relationship. Take the time to rediscover who you are outside of the relationship and what makes you happy.

Avoid Rebound Relationships

When a relationship ends, it can be tempting to start a new one to fill the void. During my breakup, I made a conscious effort to avoid rebound relationships and focus on healing myself. I knew I needed to work on myself before being ready for a new relationship.

Practice Forgiveness

Forgiveness is an important part of the healing process after a breakup. This includes forgiving your ex-partner as well as yourself. Holding onto anger and resentment can only prolong the pain and prevent you from moving on.

During my breakup, I practiced forgiveness by acknowledging my role in the relationship’s end and letting go of any resentment towards my ex-partner. It was a difficult process, but it helped me to find closure and move forward.

Give Yourself Time

Healing after a breakup takes time, and it’s important to be patient with yourself. There is no set timeline for getting over a breakup, and everyone’s healing process is different. During my breakup, I gave myself time to heal and didn’t rush the process. I knew it would take time, but I trusted that I would eventually find peace with patience and self-care.


Breakups are terrible, but you can recover. It requires acceptance, self-care, and patience, but healing and moving forward with time are possible. Remember to be kind to yourself, and don’t be afraid to seek support from friends or a therapist.


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